Writers are having more frequent opportunities to network. This can be problematic, simply because, as a general rule, writers aren’t social; we would rather open Final Draft and type a scene about people talking, than walk up to an actual human being and say “Hello”. 
Often, even if we desire to talk to people, we are uncomfortable doing so… and nothing comes out. There are exceptions, but that’s not what I am interested in chatting about today.
These networking situations can range from classroom/lecture settings to taking a meeting or Karaoke Night in NY (if you are able to go to these I suggest it!). Whatever the setting, the problem is the same; we have to interact.
I have a few tips on making the most of these situations that can really take the pressure off you, my fellow writers.
I am a very shy person. Despite being openly mocked whenever sharing that tidbit, it’s still true. I have to mentally prep myself to meet with people. I like to imagine that I am hosting a party and my job is to make sure everyone is at ease. This achieves several things for me:
1. I am not focused on me, thus I feel less stressed.
2. It’s easier to remember names when I am introducing people to each other.
3. People take notice; more often than not it is assumed that I am among those responsible for putting on whatever event I am at. (I always get a kick out of that)
4. It is easier to build rapport with someone to whom you have just thrown a life-raft!
I think the latter is the most important. Consider your day to day routines. Who do you purchase from and refer on to others? Clearly, the answer is the people that you know and with whom you have great rapport. The same is true of selling anything; if you want a referral out of someone, then you need to get to know them as friends/colleagues; then build from there.
In my humble opinion, just because we may feel nervous talking to others in these settings doesn’t mean we can’t overcome. We just need practice, so take advantage of the opportunities out there! Good luck and keep writing!
What is your secret to feeling less awkward when in a networking situation?
