When you get a meeting, finish a script, make your word count for the day, sell your work, big or small, those are all successes, and should be shared with your colleagues. When asked how a meeting went or if someone hit their goal and their reply is coy…one assumes they didn’t do well but don’t know how to say it.
Personally, I would rather be told, “We are meeting with the director next week” or “Ya, I fell flat on my face.” because now I know how to respond. How can your colleagues/friends support your endeavors if you don’t share them? I’m of the opinion that the only thing better (or worse, as the case may be) than the extremes I just mentioned, is doing so alone.
I think it is safe to say that no one is able to promote the vague writer. “No idea what she’s working on, but she says it’s going awesome!” is not a likely statement. People are able to commiserate or celebrate with you when they know what’s happening. Every now and then I see on Twitter a plea for virtual hugs or good vibes and I always try to RT and send positive energy their way. I applaud these people for being open about the struggle that they are having and being willing to allow others to support them!
Hiding your failures may actually hurt you because you are robbed of the opportunity to learn from others who have had a similar experience. Not to mention the great feeling of having someone root for you when you’re low on luck.
When you do succeed, we will be all the happier for you because we will have been along for the ride; seeing it come to life will be a greater pay off for everyone. Success feels awesome when it happens; it feels amazing when you have a cheering section!
I know I’ve been going through a rough time lately and all your support has helped get me through. I want to be authentic with you so that when I finally have a big win you will know that it wasn’t an overnight success, it was a lot like rolling a boulder uphill. Thanks for reading! I would love to hear about your progress (even if it’s not writing related!) in the comments below.